Don’t Confuse Feedback with Failure

Whoever told you that failure exists told you a big fat lie.

Failure doesn’t exist it’s just feedback of how to do something differently.

Don’t believe the hype. You are not alone, I bought the t-shirt too.

When I think about when I tried on rental roller skates for the first time, I was thrilled and horrified all at the same time.

My song was playing so I wanted to get to the wood (that’s what true skaters call it), but everyone was going so fast and they were so big. Granted I was eight years old. Once I realized I had never been on skates, my legs wobbled.

I (barely) made it to the wall that separated the ‘safe zone’ from the skating floor. I watched as people grooved to the beat, laughing, turning and balancing themselves on their skates.

I wanted to be one of them! I dashed on the floor and fell immediately. I got up quickly, I wanted to twirl and get lost in the music too.

I tried again and again for years. I didn’t let a fall or a bruise stop me from my roller skating goals.

Skating took up all day Saturdays and Sundays. I planned my outfits in advance. I practiced my turns or whatever I was working on mastering at the time in between sessions, I made every moment count.

If I accepted failure, I would have taken those skates off where I landed on my butt when I fell the first time, tossed them somewhere and never looked back.

There is no failure just feedback. Meeting the floor or bumping into someone was my feedback to slow down, turn or accelerate. But, it never stopped me because the potential of fun was on the other side.

In this scenario, the success is the fun I was experiencing. How can you know what success is if you don’t fall?

You may need to regroup, review where you misstepped and then do it again.

See the end in mind, see yourself accomplishing the goal.

The key is to not give up on the dreams you have for your life. So…’FAIL’ quickly.

Thomas Edison is credited with creating the incandescent light bulb. It is said that he attempted this 10,000 times.

Can you imagine doing something ten thousand times before you strike success? Here is what he thought about ‘failure’: “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

How many times have you given up when you were close to your success? If you could NOT fail, what would you start or continue today? Do you dare to let it live?


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Fonda Clayton is the founder of 5D Self Mastery, a community based platform for those who are ready to own their sovereignty and embody their Sacred Wholeness. She helps women recognize that splitting themselves into pieces and parts of themselves is disempowering and will always have them looking outside of the self for validation. Fonda is a Certified Life Coach, Polarity Therapist, Licensed Massage Therapist, published author, podcaster and Mother of Personal Freedom.

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